Questions That Help Bring Conviction
- Do you know what God calls what you just did/said?
- Do you realize that what you did is a sin? The Bible calls it __________.
- Can you think of a more gracious (or other appropriate biblical term) way to say (or respond to) that?
- What exactly did you do? (instead of "Did you do that?")
- What went through your mind when you did/said that?
- What did you want (long for, crave) when you did/said that?
- Are you more concerned about pleasing yourself or pleasing God?
- How exactly was God glorified (we say "honored") by what you said/did?
- Did you pray about that decision before you made it?
- What was the biblical basis for that decision?
- How did those words build up or minister grace to that person?
- If I were to ask your teacher (or mother or sister or whoever observed the behavior in question) if what you did was right, what would she (or he) say?
Taken from Teach Them Diligently by Lou Priolo
I found this so incredible helpful! Sometimes I feel like I'm stumbling over my own words when I'm disciplining Luke. It has been hard for me to be clear and specific. I copied some of these questions on a piece of paper (a few of them are geared towards older children) and hung it up in my kitchen to remind me during times of duress. I've already had a few situations when I felt like my time of correction with Luke was profitable.
3 comments:
thanks katie! this is exactly what i needed. i started teach them diligently but it has gotten laid aside in the crazy summer. i am going to copy these questions also and put on my fridge. i love that they continually point back to biblical terms and the Gospel that way we aren't training them to make excuses by our discipline.
Katie,
I like your new look. In a way it reminds me of you. Just remember you do the best you can at the moment and with God's help it will be okey.
God never stops his help to someone who wants it. All parents can be overwhelmed but God is there. Love ya,
I know I always feel like my time spent disciplining is so much more profitable when I take the time to direct them to God and show them what God thinks of their behavior. I also find that they respond much more positively.
BTW, adjusting to four hasn't been difficult. The kids all have adjusted well also. We've started homeschooling this week, so that has helped to give them something to do and have a decent schedule.
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